Yesterday I asked my boyfriend what he thought his talents were and it turned into a far more interesting question: what are things that decidedly aren’t natural to you that you’ve worked hard on and seen improvement?
There were two that came to mind for me. One is not beating myself up about things. I’ve always been a wallower, always gone to “I am the largest piece of shit at the center of the universe” over pretty much any difficult situation, big or small. I still have to work every day on being right-sized. But I catch it faster; I like myself more. Allowing myself grace is becoming more natural.
The second is trying shit because I want to, and sticking with it even when I’m terrible at it because it’s fun. I used to have to work up a huge amount of courage to try something I wanted to do, and then when it didn’t come naturally, I was too ashamed to keep going with it. When I got sober, I took up crafting. I’m not a very visually artistic person. Even now, everything I make is still pretty rough around the edges. But I enjoy it, so I keep gluing roughly-cut paper together, drawing things with wobbly edges, knitting shit that’s a little lumpy, and sewing uneven stitches. And I’m proud of the effort.
I loved hearing his answers, too. And it made me curious how other people would answer. What doesn’t come naturally to you, but you’ve worked on it anyway? What kind of progress have you seen?