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" I cannot discover God in myself and myself in others unless I have the courage to face myself exactly as I am, with all my limitations, and to accept others as they are, with all their limitations. The religious answer is not religion if it is not fully real. "

- Thomas Merton, quoted in this a radio pilgrimage to L’Arche. (via beingblog)

" I have had to experience so much stupidity, so many vices, so much error, so much nausea, disillusionment and sorrow, just in order to become a child again and begin anew. I had to experience despair, I had to sink to the greatest mental depths, to thoughts of suicide, in order to experience grace. "

- Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha (via quotes-shape-us)

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" My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned, and that’s okay. "

- Rachel Wolchin (via larmoyante)

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My baking skills range from “competent” to “how the fuck do you screw up red velvet cake that bad”

Considering making an emergency trip to the Korean bakery so that this travesty isn’t what I’m putting candles in to celebrate my dude’s soberverary.

(Yes, I’m still going to eat the cake.)

Yesterday I asked my boyfriend what he thought his talents were and it turned into a far more interesting question: what are things that decidedly aren’t natural to you that you’ve worked hard on and seen improvement?

There were two that came to mind for me. One is not beating myself up about things. I’ve always been a wallower, always gone to “I am the largest piece of shit at the center of the universe” over pretty much any difficult situation, big or small. I still have to work every day on being right-sized. But I catch it faster; I like myself more. Allowing myself grace is becoming more natural.

The second is trying shit because I want to, and sticking with it even when I’m terrible at it because it’s fun. I used to have to work up a huge amount of courage to try something I wanted to do, and then when it didn’t come naturally, I was too ashamed to keep going with it. When I got sober, I took up crafting. I’m not a very visually artistic person. Even now, everything I make is still pretty rough around the edges. But I enjoy it, so I keep gluing roughly-cut paper together, drawing things with wobbly edges, knitting shit that’s a little lumpy, and sewing uneven stitches. And I’m proud of the effort.

I loved hearing his answers, too. And it made me curious how other people would answer. What doesn’t come naturally to you, but you’ve worked on it anyway? What kind of progress have you seen?

If there’s one lesson I’ve had to learn over and over in sobriety, it’s how to humbly ask for help.

(Source: recoverystream)